Sunday, November 22, 2009

Thoughtful Words in Marriage

In many Western countries, the divorce rate is especially extremely high if making comparison with the divorce rate in many Asian countries. Many seem to treat this phenomenon as a norm, and nobody really does something which is considered beneficial to it, or in other words, things which could salvage the marriage. Though, many couples or spouse did, but what about the scientist? Do they ever look in depth on this one?

All of us know that fighting or quarrels within a marriage sometimes are inevitable, but of course, we tend to avoid these things from happening as best as we possibly could. But if we are trapped under such circumstance, what should we do? Are we just going to take a deep breath and count silently from 1 to 10 in order to swallow it? Would that be effective? Many individuals do not think so. This method, to many people, seems like one "solution" which does not solve the problem up front, but more like avoids in facing the reality.

During a fight between couples, tension and stressful situations seem to prevail. But today, we are not only talking about one of the latest marriage salvation method, but what we are going to discuss today, could also resulting in bringing health benefits to the couples.

A recent study shows that individuals in a stressful situation (ie: in a troubled relationship), tends to have elevated levels of cytokines (a kind of protein). When this kind of protein is elevated to an abnormally high level, visible problems could be seen by appearing in the forms of illnesses, such as cardiovascular diseases, type 2 diabetes, arthritis (all sorts of metabolic syndromes) and even cancers.

Instead of fighting with just by spilling out unthoughful words during quarreling, researchers suggested that by linking cognitive processing, that is, by using thoughful words which involve events of think, because, reason, why, people tend to be making sense of the conflict or at least thinking about it in a deep way.

The results of the researchers suggest that people who used more cognitive words during the fights showed a smaller increase in IL-6 (Interleukin-6) and TNF-alpha, where both are very familiar pro-inflammatory cytokines, especially to GTF distributors.

Jennifer Graham, assistant professor of biobehavioral health, surprisingly speculates that women, who are more adept at communication, tend to use cognitive words more often than men, a gender which is more prone in thinking things in logical ways; and the cognitive words used by women also have bigger impacts on their husbands.

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